Sometimes it can be hard to figure out what to talk about with your partner. Maybe you spend so much time together and that makes finding unique conversation topics hard. Or maybe you don’t spend much time together and it just feels challenging to get into the groove of great conversation.
Whatever the reason, there is good news. Conversation starters for couples can be the perfect jump start to get the words flowing. Great conversation leads to better relationships, more fun, and stronger feelings of trust and intimacy.
All sounds great, right? We think so! In light of this and to help you out, we’ve included a massive resource list of over 845 of the best conversation starters for couples.
The Biggest Resource for Endless Conversation Starters
If you want over 5,000 conversation starters (yes, we said 5,000) that you don’t have to constantly search for, you are going to want to get the LoveTrack app. It’s a free app for couples (actually free) that has a ton of features including over 5,000 conversation starters that you can swipe through and answer together.
It’s a must have for anyone looking for conversation questions for their relationship. And it’s literally free!
The Purpose of the Conversation – Serious vs. Fun
Before we dive in, there’s one caveat we need to address. Are you looking to start a conversation with the intent of talking about something in particular, or are you just looking for good, fun conversing?
If you’re looking to talk about something in particular, the conversation starters we share here are not the way to go about it. Beating around the bush to hopefully stumble onto a topic that you want to talk about is not great communication.
If you’re trying to talk about a specific topic, just be direct and ask them about it.
It really is that simple. If you want to talk about your budget or finances, just say, “Hey, can we talk about our budget for a few minutes?” If you want to start a conversation about taking a vacation together, just say, “Hey, I really want to take a vacation together. Can we talk about it?”
Now, if you’re looking just to spark some good ole’ fashioned great conversation, stay tuned! The questions, lists, and resources we share here are 100% designed for that purpose. You’ll see some are quirky, some are fun, and some are deep.
Regardless of the type or level of seriousness, the goal is the same…great conversation.
Most Popular Conversation Starters (83)
These conversation starters are perfect for couples and are broken up into three categories – fun, deep, and romantic.
Here are our top five favorite one and then here’s the link to the full list of 83 questions.
- What’s a song that instantly reminds you of a special moment we’ve shared?
- What’s a popularly held opinion that you think is dead wrong?
- What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever had to search online?
- What does vulnerability mean to you in a relationship?
- What’s a question you wish I asked you more often?
Would You Rather Questions (237)
When you want unique and fun conversations, ‘would you rather questions’ are the remedy that crushes. These questions have you take turns picking between two scenario options. Once you make your pick, you get to explain why (or at least you should).
We’ve put together a massive list of 237 of these questions to help you get the convo flowing. Here are our top five as a sample from the list and then here’s the link to all of the would you rather questions.
- Would you rather go on a surprise weekend getaway or plan every detail of your next trip together?
- Would you rather have matching pajamas or matching tattoos?
- Would you rather take dance lessons together or cooking classes?
- Would you rather have a themed date night every week or try a new restaurant every week?
- Would you rather watch your love story as a movie or read it as a novel?
- Would you rather have a partner who’s always 10 minutes early or always 10 minutes late?
- Would you rather be in a couple’s game show or a reality dating show (together)?
- Would you rather only be able to kiss during rainstorms or only during snowstorms?
- Would you rather exchange love letters or record video messages for each other every day?
- Would you rather win a couple’s costume contest or a couple’s karaoke battle?
‘This or That’ for Conversation Starting (207)
On the same note about how simple choices can spark conversations, ‘This or That’ questions also get the job done. Similar to ‘Would You Rather’ questions, these questions have you take turns picking between two items (instead of two scenarios).
Here are some of our favorites as a sample and the full list of over 200 ‘This or That’ questions.
- Pizza night or pasta night?
- Sweet or salty?
- Beach getaway or mountain retreat?
- Hotel or Airbnb?
- Minimalist or cozy clutter?
- DIY projects or hire it out?
- Comedy or drama?
- Movie night or game night?
- Painting or photography?
- Reading fiction or nonfiction?
The questions are split up into nine different categories. If you are ever short on time, these are usually the best to fit into that tight time slot.
Question to Ask Your Partner (318)
Lastly, here’s a huge list of 318 questions for your partner that are PERFECT for conversation starting. As always, here are a few of our favorites, and the link to the full list of questions to ask.
- What’s something you wish more people understood about you?
- What’s a memory you think about more than you let on?
- When do you feel most at peace with yourself?
- What’s something you’ve healed from that you’re proud of?
- What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
- What do you think your biggest responsibility in life is right now?
- How do you handle pressure when everything feels like too much?
- What does commitment mean to you?
- What kind of future are you working toward?
- What would you do if your values clashed with someone you loved?
Tips to Make Sure These Conversation Starters Work
Here’s something “fun” to know. You can have the perfect conversation starter, and it still might not work. Why? Well, there are a few other things you should take into consideration to get the best results.
Here are those things.
Choose the Right Environment
Even though some of these conversation starters are fun and quirky, your partner may not be open to having these types of conversations in public or around certain people. This becomes especially true if you’re using any of the serious questions.
Do your best to find an optimal environment where they feel comfortable and relaxed enough to engage in the conversation.
Minimize Distractions
In addition to picking the right environment, do your best to minimize distractions. Again, this can help to spark the conversation and let it flourish.
This also applies to being on your phone, unless you’re using it solely for your questions (like with the LoveTrack app).
If you’re doing that, we recommend putting your phone on silent or do not disturb so you aren’t distracted by any incoming messages.
Don’t Try to Start a Conversation When Time is Short
If your partner is worried about being on time to something or has limited time, be careful with using these conversation starters. Sometimes you can successfully work them into tighter time spots, but you limit the ability to really let them take life.
Remember, even the silliest of questions can lead to the greatest of conversations. Don’t sell yourself short because of a tight timeline.
Don’t Try When They’re in a Bad Mood
Yes, some of the more fun conversation starters for couples may help to spring someone out of a bad mood. While we won’t fault you for trying (you don’t have a lot to lose), just be aware that you may not get the best reaction if they’re not in a great mood.
Pick the best time for these conversation starters for better results.