Objective:
Students will explore how technology can both support and hinder relationships, learning strategies to maximize its benefits while minimizing distractions and potential harm.
Class Time Needed:
45–60 minutes for instructor-led discussion + student debate + short wrap-up activity.
Materials Needed:
- Student smartphones with the LoveTrack app installed (free to download)
- Reflection and Technology Habit Tracking Worksheet
- QR Code Sheet for App Download
Resources:
- Reflection and Technology Habit Tracking Worksheet (Printable PDF)
- QR Code Sheet for App Download (Printable PDF)
Step-by-Step Instructions
Step 1 – Open Discussion (5–7 minutes)
Ask students:
- “What are some ways technology helps you stay connected in relationships?”
- “What are some ways technology can create problems?”
List responses on the board, making sure to capture both positive and negative.
Step 2 – Teacher Shares Research & Tips (10 minutes)
Present findings from relationship studies showing both the benefits and risks of technology use.
Benefits of Technology in Relationships – Examples:
- Easier communication through texts, calls, and video chats keeps couples connected, especially long-distance
- Shared calendars, reminders, and apps help partners stay on top of important dates and responsibilities
- Social media and photo sharing allow couples to celebrate and document their relationship milestones
- Access to relationship resources like articles, podcasts, and apps provides tools for growth and problem-solving
- Dating apps can be an effective way to meet compatible partners and start new relationships
- Fun interactions through memes, games, and quick messages add levity and playfulness
Risks of Technology in Relationships – Examples:
- Overuse of devices can lead to distraction and reduced quality time together
- Social media comparisons may create jealousy or unrealistic expectations
- Online interactions (flirting, secrecy, or affairs) can damage trust and cause conflict
- Miscommunication is common through text, where tone and intent can be misread
- Constant connectivity can blur boundaries and reduce time for personal space
- The gamification of dating apps (swiping, likes, and matches) can reduce people to profiles and make relationships feel disposable
Below, we’ve included some research articles to consider sharing data and findings from:
- The Brain and Swiping for Love (Kenyon University) – Discusses the effects of gamification on the brain, particularly as it relates to dating apps.
- Dating and Relationships in the Digital Age (Pew Research) – Real-world data on the use of technology, particularly smartphones in romantic relationships.
Step 3 – Teacher Introduces LoveTrack (5 minutes)
- Explain how LoveTrack helps couples or friends use technology positively by providing tools like daily questions, shared planning, and milestone tracking.
- Show students how to access these features in the app.
- Give students a few minutes to download the app through the QR code sheet provided or through https://lovetrackapp.com.
Step 4 – Student Debate/Activity (15–20 minutes)
Split the class into two groups:
- Group 1: Argue that technology is more helpful than harmful for relationships.
- Group 2: Argue that technology is more harmful than helpful.
After discussion, switch roles briefly so students explore both perspectives.
Step 5 – Wrap-Up & Reflection (10 minutes)
As a class, create a short list of strategies for using technology to improve relationships while minimizing downsides.
Examples: no-phone zones, setting expectations for response times, using apps like LoveTrack to stay intentional.
Homework Assignment
For one week, complete the LoveTrack Daily Questions with a partner (friend, family, or romantic). In addition, track your personal technology use each day, noting moments where it supported connection (e.g., using apps like LoveTrack, staying in touch, sharing moments) and where it created distraction or tension (e.g., phone use during conversations, too much scrolling).
At the end of the week, write a 2-page reflection covering:
- What you learned from doing the daily questions.
- Positive ways technology supported your relationships.
- Negative ways technology distracted or created challenges.
- One or two strategies you plan to use going forward to keep technology a positive influence.